Coming

[Guest 103013]

I need advice from dom/mes about coming.

I am always so in control of a situation, and that includes me as well.

How can I let go enough when I am with my sub in order to come myself?

As you can imagine, it's driving me crazy.

Help please!

[Ozme52]

Get a safeword, her promise to use it, and let yourself go. You still can have self control but eliminate the self-restraint.

Then use her secure in the knowledge she is doing you the service of ensuring safety.

[Nicipac]

I mean no offense as I know nothing of your situation other than what you posted above...but the bells going off in my head make me want to scream WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? If you are so in control of yourself, that you can not let yourself cum....how much pleasure are you getting out of your sub?? what are you doing to the mind of your sub? the one who worships you and adores you..yet is unable to please you!!

[scarlet_85]

I mean no offense as I know nothing of your situation other than what you posted above...but the bells going off in my head make me want to scream WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? If you are so in control of yourself, that you can not let yourself cum....how much pleasure are you getting out of your sub?? what are you doing to the mind of your sub? the one who worships you and adores you..yet is unable to please you!!

Please forgive me if I am out of line...

I am kind of asking the same question. As a slave, it is my duty to please my Master. And as His slave, I will do anything and everything in my power to make sure he is left satisfied. I would hope that if I were doing something wrong or needed improvement, He would communicate this with me. Maybe you and your sub should come up with a way together to make sure you cum. I think communication is huge! You can accomplish a lot with it.

I hope you find a solution