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Hi everybody. I'm gonna start by saying I am a really young girl and I have a master. My fiance whom I have been engaged to a little over a year. He is a very kind man but a little too kind. I want him to be a little more rough. Now I am not saying that i want a new master nooo way! I just want him to be more rough when he's acting as my master but I'm too shy to tell him what i want. Does anyone have any suggestions for me?
Hello and welcome. One suggestion might be that you browse the internet and come across a site such as this. There are also sites such as Literotica which have mixed stories that you could read together and you can make it obvious that you get excited when reading the BDSM stories. See what happens!
I appreciate the comment but we have already established that we both get turned on by BDSM play but I mean I want him to be rougher. He can be so gentle. I dont want him to be as gentle. I want him to get rougher to be willing to cause me more pain. Do you have any suggestions as how I could get him to be rougher?
If you are too shy to tell him outright:
Try writing a daily journal and letting him read it as a way of providing him feed back.
That way your innermost desires can be made more readily available for him to use to the advantage of your further submission in the relationship.
i can understand feeling shy about this. but, there is a time and a place for respectful, bold, honesty. this is one of those times. a good D/s relationship and a romantic relationship are about absolute trust and honesty.
i have found that holding thoughts, feeling and ideas back from my Master can be just as damaging to our connection as dishonesty would be.
holding back something like this is a form of conrol on your part. learning to be a good submissive, is about surrendering all the control to your Master and allowing him to chart the course.
i would encourage you to be straightforward and honesy with your Dom. let him rise to the challenge knowing what your thoughts and desires are. give him control of this, and you won't be disappointed. it is an opportunity for you to grow together as Dom and sub.
You really need to tell him, but, you can always in the moment yell "hit me harder Master!" :D
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Originally Posted by SirsCatsneaky
No. Not "in the moment." That's topping from the bottom. ;)
But you can count outloud and politely thank him and politely ask for another... and he'll either get there through quantity or get there through quality as he realizes you're wearing him out.
Before a scene starts, I suggest you go to him, abase yourself (on your knees, body postrated on the floor, perhaps a whip or flogger or cane in your hand (if that's what you mean by rougher... but regardless,) and beg your master to grant you the favor of being harsher and rougher with you.
But no matter how you do it, open communication is key. You can't hint, you have to be direct.
Hmmm thank you all for your input. I will definantly try that journal idea from Kuskovian. That is an excellent idea. I will tell him as soon as possible. He would love to know how he can make the sessions more pleasurable for me. But by telling him what I want am I taking a bit of his dominant nature?
im her master and this is my first post so if anyone has any advice i would love your input
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Originally Posted by ShyLittleSlave
of course not, part of being in if any relationship, even sub-dom is letting the other know how you feel and if something is wrong. if he was TO rough and hurting you not in a fun way, you'd need to tell him, right? so why should it be any different?
i do, try being rougher with her, your being to gentalQuote:
Originally Posted by demonicmaster
wellcome to the site both of u
i reccomend comunication of your feelings to each other, between a journal and Oz's advise you have a good idea
also read the forums
the forums are full of great information on bdsm, that you will both find useful
feel free to pm any of the staff or myself with conserns or questions, we are more than willing to lend a hand
hope to see more of you soon
have lots of fun exploring the site
hugs and kissess
denuseri
thank you both for your comments very helpful
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