Welcome to the Library better-bottom. most of us are pretty friendly so any questions ask in the room hun, some one will help you out or you might get ten different ideas on a topic just to confuse you, lol. Either way things come down to the two people in the relationship and what they want, how well they communicate as well as how well they trust each other. take care and have fun . Oh, you are allowed to say no or please leave me alone,, your a submisive, not a door mat.