wonderworld
Registered User

Looking for a Leader is the wrong terminology. It is a TOP, DOM or Master. As noted, you commit to the lifestyle first. It doesn't sound like you have and just exploring. A bottom, sub or slave may be a more appropriate guide for your exploration until you are able to commit.

hi sorry just learning this.

Oh. I see. How else would I word that then? I think the title is where I was off? Is that what you mean? In the body of my classified I stated I was new and looking for a leader to explore with. Feel free to help me re word that. You seem to understand what I am meaning to say. Thanks BTW. I don't know what I want. Maybe I should have just titled it that.

I think you should have asked for a mentor or training from a Master. Your originally message suggested you want full M/s online play. Go Slow is always the BDSM mantra for new relationships--even for experienced players. In order to paly there must be a progression of interactions: interests, discovery, initial agreement, fine point clarification, commitment then ongoing communications.

You just skipped all that and put urself out there. This is not safe for you or a Master. We wouldn't know what to ask you to do. We don't know your limits.

The usual progression is commit to lifestyle, find a master, then submit. You went to the end without the first two steps.

Get the idea?

try my master extreme_dom_master

exploration in bdsm starts with safety...even online.....have you read SM101?

Thank you. I have thoroughly enjoyed this experience so far. It seems to be a place of free thinkers who have a foundation of knowlege or research behind their beliefs. I was on some other sites and was extremely dissappointed.... People fitting the exact stereotypes that everyone here abhors. I'm glad I found this site. Thank you for being so welcoming.

Let me be the first to post a message....welcome, I hope you find what you seek!