Valshar
Registered User

My grandmother and grandfather are the two finest people who ever walked this earth.
My grandmother died 17 years ago. It was not sudden nor was it drawn out. We were prepared but didn't have to wait through a lingering death.
Even with that preparation I was crushed, shattered, empty, terrified. Pick an adjective.

On the day of her funeral, standing by her grave site, barely able to breath, I heard her voice in my head. She said "Be happy for what you have". Exactly the sort of thing she said in life. I really mean exactly, I was a greedy little cuss.
Now here's the thing. That wasn't my grandmother talking to me. I wasn't having a religious or spiritual experience. That was me talking to myself. That was when I realized, Grandma wasn't gone. She is in me, part of me. I can talk to her anytime I want. I can still hear her voice. I can see her. Can I go to her house and eat her sandpaper dry turkey, overcooked broccoli (we were always amazed that the broccoli didn't break down into sub-atomic particles) and that fantastic chocolate cake with mocha icing? Nope, can't do that. Is she gone? No. Do i miss her? No, why should I? She's right here with me. Grandpa too. Never cried at a funeral again.

Next time you talk to Sunshine say Hi from Desze.

your writing is beautiful.. it helps me
thank you,
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There isnt much I can say other than follow your heart.
Made some extremely difficult and heart wrenching decisions in our life.
Fertilise your mind with happy thoughts, and happiness will grow inside you.
Feel the fear, embrace the fear, and use it to drive your heart to discover new joys.
Find your affirmation and follow it where it leads you.

The past is part of what makes us who we are.
Embrace the past, hold it tight, then let it go........

Just want to say a huge thanks for your kind words .. life is such a strange journey and we are here for an instant ... It is what we do when we are here that makes us be remembered through others when we are gone ... I loved my Father with all my Life and he has gone and left such an empty space in me Heart .. But i continue to walk this journey of life and see where it takes me on it's such strange path

Hugs and hope to chat with you soon .. I do truly hope you are remembering sunshine with a smile now rather than tears x

Hello my friend ... I have not been around for such along time My Father died 3 weeks ago .. Such pain i have never endured in this life and do not wish to again... I do hope you are well and Life is begining to make you smile hugs x

just dropped by to say hi..
waves and blows kisses..
hope you are good???
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smiles and hugs you.. then reconsiders and holding your face in my hands kisses you soundly.. lol..
thank you Valshar.. as always your writing is beautiful..

um.. if Gods allow hugs..lol..

standing on tip toes.. holding you gently..
whispers 'im sorry' in your ear..
then biting your neck just hard enough to leave a mark.......lol... sorry did warn that i bite...
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hoping you and your family are safe
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